Tuesday, October 28, 2008

You give bad phone


What are the chances that someone you have about 3% chemistry with on the phone is going to offer you tons of chemistry in person? I'm struggling a bit with that right now.

Just hung up with The Lawyer. About halfway through the conversation (and probably three or four calls since I met him), I decided he is just sort of goofy. But then I thought that perhaps he just gives bad phone, so I should give him the benefit of the doubt.

We made a date to get together next Wednesday (I am literally booked from now until then). So I thought one more "in person" try would tell me for sure whether he IS goofy, or if he's just bad on the phone.

BUT. THEN. IT. HAPPENED.

He asked if I wanted to go to a "prom" for his law firm. It's black tie. It's the weekend before Molly's wedding. And it might be too late to say no (since I, well, sort of said yes).

I don't know what happened. I thought we were about to hang up, then he sprung this whole prom question on me. I guess maybe I just said yes because I was totally caught off guard!

So now I'm stuck going to an event with someone who I'm certain gives bad phone and may or may not give bad "in person" too. (Recall that I've seen him twice in person... once, when I met him and had far too many gin and tonics to remember anything about him; the other, when we went on the date where he stared at my chestal region.)

I did build in an escape plan once I found out when the event was by telling him that I had promised Molly I would do whatever she needed prior to the wedding. So, I said I needed to check with her before I could totally commit.

What would you do if you were this on the fence and had a black tie invite? I mean, grabbing a pizza and beer is one thing. Meeting his entire firm (that's what she said) at a black tie event is another. Help?!?!?!

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Totes go. What do you have to lose? Nada, my friend. Nada.

Anonymous said...

I say go. I wouldn't want to be in his shoes....

Sarah said...

I think you should go-if it doesn't work out with him, maybe you could meet someone else there...

Anonymous said...

I might need my dress "fluffed" or something a week before the wedding.....just in case!

What's the worst that can happen (well...don't answer that). You can wear your bridesmaid dress if you want! HA.

Love,
Anonymous!

Anonymous said...

i cant imagine spending time with somebody you dont feel right about...especially in formal attire at a work-related function. use the out...ditch 'em

Anonymous said...

If it doesn't work out, there is always the potential of finding other hot, single lawyers in tuxedos. What do you have to lose??

Anonymous said...

i don't think you should go out of pity, i think you should go b/c you could have a really awesome time. you never know until you try -- and at least you'll get a bunch of free gin and tonics for the night.

Always a Bridesmaid said...

Wow. It's going to be hard to respond since most of you commented anonymously.

BUT, nearly everyone says to go. Hmmm.... I have a knot in my stomach now.

I guess this is an excuse to buy that dress I've been eyeing at Banana Republic. Maybe I'll meet someone THERE when I go to get it! :)

Julie said...

Oh. my. god. I thought you were MENSA. You should totally go. Stop questioning it. Get some balls. Grow a sack. You have nothing to lose.

Just be sure to stuff your bra.

blogmom said...

I feel I've been neglecting my blogmom duties - GO. You always manage to have fun no matter where you are and no matter who you are with. This has Always a Bridesmaid written all over it!