What are the chances that someone you have about 3% chemistry with on the phone is going to offer you tons of chemistry in person? I'm struggling a bit with that right now.
Just hung up with The Lawyer. About halfway through the conversation (and probably three or four calls since I met him), I decided he is just sort of goofy. But then I thought that perhaps he just gives bad phone, so I should give him the benefit of the doubt.
We made a date to get together next Wednesday (I am literally booked from now until then). So I thought one more "in person" try would tell me for sure whether he IS goofy, or if he's just bad on the phone.
BUT. THEN. IT. HAPPENED.
He asked if I wanted to go to a "prom" for his law firm. It's black tie. It's the weekend before Molly's wedding. And it might be too late to say no (since I, well, sort of said yes).
I don't know what happened. I thought we were about to hang up, then he sprung this whole prom question on me. I guess maybe I just said yes because I was totally caught off guard!
So now I'm stuck going to an event with someone who I'm certain gives bad phone and may or may not give bad "in person" too. (Recall that I've seen him twice in person... once, when I met him and had far too many gin and tonics to remember anything about him; the other, when we went on the date where he stared at my chestal region.)
I did build in an escape plan once I found out when the event was by telling him that I had promised Molly I would do whatever she needed prior to the wedding. So, I said I needed to check with her before I could totally commit.
What would you do if you were this on the fence and had a black tie invite? I mean, grabbing a pizza and beer is one thing. Meeting his entire firm (that's what she said) at a black tie event is another. Help?!?!?!