Sunday, March 29, 2009

Keep your friends close...


... and, apparently, your blog readers closer.

If you've spent any time over the last few days reading comments on one of my recent blog posts, you probably know where this is going.

If you haven't, buckle up.

I learned on Friday that one of my readers took it upon herself (or himself) to read this post recapping my date with The Greek, spend who-knows-how-much time trying to figure out who he was in real life, figured it out, tracked him down and sent him a link to the blog telling him to watch out for me.

(Sidenote: blogmom would have been so proud of this person's Cyber McGyver skills. Except for the fact that they were put to use to screw her daughter. So, probably not so much now.)

Awesome. An e-cock block. Well, except that I was the one getting blocked, so I guess it can't technically be a coc... oh, you know what I mean.

But seriously, peeps. As if I don't have a hard enough time with my dating life, I now apparently have someone who is trying to sabotage it even further.

(And just when I finally had a fun date with a guy who I would have wanted to go out with again.)

And the bitch of it is that this saboteur knows my real identity (she/he used my name in the email), yet commented as "anonymous" on the post so I don't know hers/his. (The "anonymous" post was left after The Greek left a post which I responded to.)

Now don't get me wrong, readers. I would totally get it if you knew my real identity and somehow figured out that I was dating one of your friends, so you wanted to warn him about the blog. That's called being a good friend.

This situation? I'm not really sure what to call it. Other than totally effed up.

I have a lot of less-than-nice things to say about this situation, but I'm going to try to be the bigger person and end this post now so I can refrain from doing so.

But that doesn't mean you have to! What do you think? Am I overreacting? Or did this cross the line?

P.S. Apologies to The Greek for being outed. That was obvi never my intention. (If I knew how to say "sorry" in Greek, I would! However, I would not ironically say "sooooooorry" like I did to Molly in my last post.)

38 comments:

Anonymous said...

WTF???? This person is a complete moron!!! Why in the world would this person out you??? If I were you, I'd be completely ticked off! If the "outer" is a personal friend, he/she is a disgusting disgrace of a friend. And, if the "outer" doesn't personally know you, but went through all the effort to figure it all out... well then, he/she really has way too much time on his/her hands, and obviously needs to get a life!!! GRRR.... I am so mad FOR YOU!!!

alexa - cleveland's a plum said...

you have to know who this sabotager is right? did the greek tell you who it was?

i hate this person, if you need me to kick someone i will.

no one messes with my blosse.

(blosse = blog + posse)

Always a Bridesmaid said...

Anonymous - phew! I thought I might be going crazy.

Alexa - not sure if I know him/her. But I am soooooo glad I know you b/c I literally almost peed laughing at the "blosse" comment. I'm glad to know I'll always have at least one Greek in my life! ;)

Anonymous said...

OK - Just went back and read the comments and your exchange with The Greek and the psycho "Anonymous." Oops, I guess that kind of shows what my thoughts are on this hag. Like you said, if she somehow realized that she knew this guy and wanted to be a good friend and alert him, then that's one thing. But to take the time to figure out how to contact a person you don't know at all - I would say that this "Anonymous" comment poster has real issues. I think all of your readers enjoy following your dating escapades and are rooting for you - or should I say that all but one of your followers are rooting for you. Perhaps "Anonymous" was a real loser in high school and jealous of you and this is her way of getting back at you. Well kudos to you Anonymous - now AAB will just find another cute guy and hopefully start a great relationship. We look forward to hearing about it. And you can spend your time keeping really busy - like counting how many exclamation points I have placed at the end of my comment... get to work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Obviously, this Hater is just jealous of your beauty, charm and creative writing skills! So the Greek knows about the blog now...so the Greek knows you had a good time on the date...so the Greek knows you have another date this week with an Irish guy (Hater...start searching for all the Irish guys in the area now). If this "anonymous" hater put the kibosh on the Greek...so what! Alls I have to say is "NEXT PLEASE!"

Always a Bridesmaid said...

Anon 1 - !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ha ha ha. (And thanks for your sweet email too.)

Anon 2 - yes, The Greek definitely knows about the blog now. (BTW, I have no idea what ethnicity the Tuesday date nite guy is... but apparently you're hoping he's Irish! HA!)

Anonymous said...

I am sorry but it is crazy bitches like this, that give us all a bad name. Like you said, if she knew him and was good friends with him, a heads up is fair. But to find him out and send him an email -- PATHETIC. Blogs are a great way to share info and just interact with people online. I enjoy reading it -- and the fact that another blatantly jealous biatch would do this, is so sad. She clearly likes the Greek and he clearly doesn't like her or he would be dating her instead of out with you. Hang in there and keep up the blogs -- you are a great writer and make every other single girl feel more normal about the crazy world of dating.

Always a Bridesmaid said...

Anon - Amen, sister! (P.S. it's sort of ironic that everyone is commenting as "anonymous," no? ha!)

Christina K said...

Wow. At least this chick probably has a worse dating life than you since she's got so much time on her hands. And, I really liked The Greek from how you described him. He seems to get it. Mr. Greek: AAB is a catch! I will vouch for her ANYTIME!

P.S. My word verification is "farkings," which made me giggle. I don't know why.

blogmom said...

This is insane and the person who did this must feel pretty good about himself/herself - stalking you and tattling - just like grade school. Maybe he/she should be grounded for acting like a 10 year old. Some advice for them - GROW UP ALREADY.

Always a Bridesmaid said...

Christina - aww, thanks! I can vouch for your appetite, if you need that back-up at any point. :)

Blogmom - I don't know why, but your use of the word "tattle" just made me giggle.

Anonymous said...

This bitch needs to fess up. She obviously is a devoted reader of your blog to the point of stalking you and the men you date (I mean, she doesn't even know him; normal to spend time finding out his name and how to get in touch with him). She needs to grow some balls and admit to you and your readers her identity and her motivation for sabotaging you. She is a miserable and pathetic whore.

MG said...

@ All,

I now DO know about the blog and I can't stress enough that it really doesn't bother me at all that i was either "outed" or blogged about- it was tastefully anonymous and rather complementary (I wasnt embarassed about not knowing what to do with Valet, it was true...). My only concern with being blogged about is that it's strictly subjective and I have my own way of doing things and if that doesn't jive with the author, I may look bad when others would think it looks good and vice-versa...but whatever.

the #1 and only thing annoying me is this person who i'm really trying to be decent and not reveal their identity for the moment because i guess they were trying to "help" me yet has not answered as to how the figured out it was me, which makes them just look like a creep in my eyes.

I cant possibly see how this person "likes" me as some have mentioned being that this person doesnt know me at all nor do I know her. My honest opinion is that this woman may have some sort of female bs rivarly thing going on since who knows when and I'm just a pawn in the game.


The Greek.

Chuck said...

Ever since I read this post I've been trying to figure out why somebody would waste the time to track down "The Greek's" identity. I know he's saying he didn't know the person, but how else could they have found out? Unless they are friends with both (or at min. Facebook friends with both of you?). Confusing, and it sucks for you at the same time. Sorry it went down that way.

Always a Bridesmaid said...

Anon - whoa. I don't want to get on your bad side. Lucky for me, that's not likely to happen (since I know who you are!). :)

The Greek - even though you may not be mad about the "outing," I still feel badly about it. BTW, I enjoy your use of the word "creep."

MG said...

All of the commas I type in my last message didn't publish somehow...now THAT'S embarassing!

Anonymous said...

Kudos, the Greek. I love you.

Always a Bridesmaid said...

Chuck - The Greek tells me that he doesn't know this chic, nor am I FB friends with her. And I don't have any reason not to believe him.

The, Greek, commas, are, unnecessary, during, times, of, weirdness.

10:56 Anon - great. Now YOU love The Greek too? ha ha ha!!!!

Holy Crap! said...

So Greek Man, are you going to take Always a Bridesmaid out again? Inquiring readers want to know!

Sparks said...

the greek sounds pretty cool, given all this drama (and cute - bonus!). i say you should go out again - or at the very least, be friends. perhaps the greek is a new candidate for man monday??!!

-sparks

Megan said...

I'm with everyone else on this one. The anonymous hater has way too much time on their hands. I had an e-mail conversation with a DC area blogger about how I always feel too weird to go to the blogger meet ups even though readers are invited because I feel like even though I know so much about their lives...I am a total stranger to them and they know nothing about me (other than the occasional comment). Apparently for anonymous that line between knowing and not really knowing has been blurred. The sad part is that there have been other crazies like this _ I remember reading about one in London who went to jail for cyber-stalking, slander etc. Let's just hope that the threat of being outed has scared the crazy lady off.

Always a Bridesmaid said...

Holy Crap & Sparks - sounds like you're both on the same page about me going out with The Greek again. (Unfortunately, I don't know that he is.)

Megan - bite your tongue! I don't need a cyber stalker. Yikes!

Anonymous said...

Girl doesn't like what you do but has no problem reading about it obviously. The best thing that came out of this is finding out how cool The Greek is!

MG said...

@ Chuck,

my name is Michael Goulis and I can be easily found through Google search or Facebook.

BUT, you'd still have to have read the original post, figured out it was me by context, and then looked me up to get in touch with me from there. For all you strangers out there, i felt quite comfortable in the original post's anonymity and didn't feel that gave me away(and again, big deal i went on a date, acted like a gentleman, and it was covered in a blog, I'm SO offended...) but if you knew me personally, it wouldn't be that difficult- past life ans skater, tattoos, peace corps, greek in cleveland...i may be the only one. However, this was weird to me because then someone who knows me somewhat personally would still have to be a reader to have seen it in the first place, which is quite possible.

However, In general, I surround myself with pretty forward people and as most of my female friends (as this facebook whistle-blower supposedly is) are usually busting my chops for something or other anyway, I'd literally expect one of them, if they were the reader in question, to simply message me as themselves saying "dude, don't go out with her again she blogged about you!" or something like that..they know they can feel free to approach me about whatever so this whole thing is bizarre and in my conclusion lends to general weirdness.

It's possible it is a fake account for someone in general or someone i do know wanting to keep anon (although, I'd still say highly unlikely based on my friends) it’s possible cuz there’s no photo and very private and under recent activity it had that she just joined. She DID not friend request me and is not on our blogger's friend list either but put that she was born in 1976.

I told our blogger she'll get a name tomorrow if I don’t hear back (or maybe regardless-I’m not to be messed with, creeps) from her and she can publish it herself should she like or should I feel a bit brash maybe I’ll do post it in the comments.

La Chiam,

The Greek/MG

Anonymous said...

Okay - I love that The Greek signs off as The Greek! :)

I just wonder if the tattle-tail (that was for you blogmom) used his/her real name to create a clearly fake FB account!

I can't wait until tomorrow and the unveiling!

Kimber said...

Oooh, internet drama.

The most important thing that hasn't been answered yet is:

Are you going out with The Greek again?!

Chuck said...

Kudos to you, Mike. you definitely seem like a world class dude. sucks that you and AAB are having to deal with such idiocy.

Anonymous said...

Fake facebook chick needs to get a life. Someone who has that much time on their hands to A) research people for hours on end (assumption #1) and B) read a blog that clearly annoys them (assumption #2) is a complete l-o-s-e-r. I love the Greek and hope he and sissy go on another dizzy.

I'm a poet and I didn't know it, but my feet show it b/c they're longfellows.

LiLu said...

Oh... SO freaking lame. I've had my share of trolls, but never anything like that... that's effing with your Real Life = NOT COOL. Like you said, it'd be one thing to give him a heads up as a friend. That is not at ALL what this is... creep factor of a million, if you ask me...

Stacey D. said...

I truly feel for you. I stumbled upon your blog through someone else and have enjoyed reading about your dating life. Sorry to say that it makes me thank my lucky stars that I am married and don't have to go through all of that.

I feel for you because I was in a similar situation. Since I was 17yrs old - I am now almost 35 - I have had a MALE best friend. He and I were off and on for 17yrs. He was my first time, my first love and the one that got away. We had remained friends - the kind that will always be there no matter how much time passes - even after I got married. I made sure that my husband knew all about him before the big day. However, after 17yrs he had an epiphany - he never should have let me go. After some long talks and a bunch of "sorry you missed out buddy" - we decided we were better as friends. However, his girlfriend did not like this and searched out my husband through MySpace and sent him copies of 'girl talk' type emails. Needless to say - she is still at it...trying to tell my friend that my husband sent her a message stating that he thought we were up to something because I was coming in at 4am. My response to that - for those of you out there who have jobs that start at 8am - I wake at 6am, so the only thing that I am doing at 4am is sleeping. Funny enough my husband is right there next to me.

Sorry this comment is so long. AAB, keep doing what your doing and just let the haters be jealous. The Greek seems like an awesome man and anyone who can take something like this in stride is worth hanging on to.

Good luck.

Always a Bridesmaid said...

2:26 Anon - I'm sure blogmom liked the call-out. :)

Kimber - I don't know. We had emailed about going out again, but that was before this whole fiasco went down.

Chuck - I like that you used a genericized identity to post that. LOL!

4:24 Anon - you're such a poet, siss! I can totes imagine you giggling as you typed that.

LiLu - amen, sister. Amen.

Always a Bridesmaid said...

Stacy - whoa. That's even WORSE. Screwing with your hubs is a whole different ballpark. Let us know if you need some reinforcements... apparently my readers are feeling feisty today!

Nance said...

Seriously?!? Who has that much freakin' time?!? Might I suggest Getalife.com?

The Greek sounds like he could be a keeper. And AAB is definitely worth a second date. You can't let this cyberstalker win.

Christina K said...

My Tuesday dream:

a) AAB and The Greek plan a second date via blog commenting
b) Tattle tale is outed
c) I score some spanakopitakia (AAB, forgot to tell you that I reviewed the Mad Greek this month for the Heights Observer!)

Chuck said...

@AAB - yeah, stupid blogspot signs me out sometimes. I was particularly lazy in the last comment.

Here's hoping you and Michael have date #2 sometime soon.

P.S. genericized isn't a word FYI

Carrie said...

sounds like you have a hater! this chica is nutso! seriously, what does she do for a living? Private cyber investigator? LAME! must agree w/ blogmom that tattling is for grade schoolers (love you blogmom!)!!

PS...I completely enjoy "The Greek". It's very fun that he's just going w/ the flow of this.

Allison M. said...

I am so mad I didn't check your blog over the 3 days. Look at all the greek/high school/tattling I missed out on!

PJ said...

I like pie.