Sunday, July 5, 2009

Taking a blogcation (blog + vacation)...


... til the week of August 10th.

Why?

A few reasons:

  • I realized this weekend that all everyone ever asks me about now is whether I am dating someone. My dating life has become my identity. This became painfully apparent on the 4th of July when the first question out of EVERY person's mouth that I hadn't seen in more than a month was, "So, are you dating anyone?" After hearing it, oh, about a hundred times, I was VERY over it. (And still am.) I realize that my dating life is all I talk about here, but in real life I actually do have other things to talk about. Yet my dating life still seems to trump all of them.

  • Also this weekend, I learned that one of the guys that I recently wrote about found out about the blog (and his appearance on it). And the only way he could have found out is if one of the handful of my friends who knew his real identity accidentally told him, or that one of them told someone who then told him. The circle of people who knew the guy's real identity was very small, so I know the news came from someone close to me. And while I'm sure it was harmless and/or accidental, it still sort of pisses me off.

  • I can't tell you the number of text messages and/or emails I've gotten recently from well-meaning friends telling me that there's a hot guy at [insert location where I am nowhere close to], or that I should check out [location that I'd probably never in a million years go to] to meet cute guys. While I totally appreciate the gesture and the fact that my friends are looking out for me (I know they just want me to be happy), those messages have actually been serving more as a reminder that I'm their only single friend.

  • And, the straw that broke the camel's back... I got a FB friend request last week from a guy who contacted me because our moms conspired to fix us up. (I knew nothing about it prior to getting the friend request.) When the situation was further investigated, I discovered that... wait for it.... the only way blogmom knew of this kid was because his mom waited on blogmom at Macy's.

I just sort of feel like my singlehood (and this blog, to some extent) has become too much of my identity lately. I don't really want to be AAB first and foremost in everyone's mind anymore.

So, check back here the week of August 10th. That's when the 50 days' indulgence following my Girl Sweetheart's Daily Prayer is up. (I've been saying the prayer faithfully every day, so let's hope it works!)

Maybe I'll have some positive boy news to report by then. (You know what they say... good things happen when you're not looking for them.)

And if not, hopefully I'll at least feel a little more like myself... and less like "the girl who writes the dating blog."

See you in a few weeks! Stay out of trouble!

16 comments:

alexa - cleveland's a plum said...

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

but that no is for selfish reasons of not wanting you yo stop writing. but that being said i understand 100% what it's like and it's tough. i'll still be here though when you get back.

in the meantime we can go out and get drinks while NOT talking about dating people.

PJ said...

First! (Godspeed, AAB.)

bird said...

Awww, I'll miss reading you for the next couple weeks!! Enjoy your blogcation...and looking forward to some good stories from your Sweetheart prayer!!

Anonymous said...

Keeps your friends close & your enemies closer - Sabateur! :)

Piper said...

Good for you. Recharge, regroup. Go outside and enjoy the sunshine and get away from the computer! :)

Or maybe I'm just talking to myself... Either way, rock on.

Sea Level is for Sissies said...

AAB,
Your blog is one of the main reasons I open Google Reader each morning. My day won't start the same without reading your new post. I have to admit, I'm not surprised to hear some of the issues you've had as a result of the blog. It's a shame some people can't respect the anonymity of the blog, but I guess that is what happens when we open ourselves up to cyberspace. Enjoy the blogcation...I'll still open Google Reader every morning until August 10th hoping you end your sabbatical early.

MG said...

F'ing A right. This is a good move. One thing you may not have completely noticed is that by even giving a guy the attention of writing a blog post about a single or not-yet even-to-have-occurred date with him, you were already paying him more attention than warranted after not even a date or so...more a time investment than a woman should spend on a guy til he proves himself worth such attention.

It's a bit irksome of course (due to ego and laziness), but it's generally a good thing to see a girl blow you off unless/until you "come correct." by NOT blogging about a guy, you're not going to focus much attenton to any guy who isn't making serious moves to get picked up on your radar and that's the natural way of things so I really think this is a great move to make.

Cheers! go enjoy your summer!

MG

p.s. "Yet my dating life still seems to trump all of them."= BS social construct that this SHOULD be the most important thing to a woman vs. a man. Unpleasant as it may be, you can handle this by getting a bit of an attitude when asked.

Chuck said...

Yeah, what Sea Level said!

MG said...

wait, did someone text grammar guy "sum1 rote blog bout u!"???

Allison M. said...

have a wonderful vacation and hopefully you score an awesome tan.

Candis said...

Have a good vacation! I'll look forward to August 10th when you come back.

T-n-T said...

Whadup :) I will miss the blog during its hiatus but think this will be good for you. Have fun on vacation. Drink some Blue Whale for me!

little npf's mom said...

i am going to miss reading about your latest adventures over the next few weeks! hope you have a great vaca. enjoy a margarita (or 5) by the pool with a side of US Weekly!

Tia said...

Just wanted to say I love your site, and I am recommending it to my bridesmaid who is very much tired of never being a bride!

LiLu said...

Missing you, but wholeheartedly understanding. Today someone gchatted me this: ~@~

Which, if you send it, you will see turns into a steaming turd. I laughed until they said, "Someone sent me this, and I immediately thought of you!"

Perhaps it's time for a break from TMI Thursdays...

Narm said...

Know what is a lot better than boys?

Bacon.

Just saying.